Month 3 Mental Strength Module 2

 

My Circle of Self-Worth

 

How do you describe your self-worth? Is your level of self-worth given to you by others? Does you parent, peers or lover determine your self-worth? Is it your level of success? Before continuing, write down your answers to these questions in your journal and review your answers after you read this passage.

 

As a young adult, I never understood what self-worth was. I thought it was determined by other people’s perception of me. I believed that as my success grew, my self-worth would grow. I decided to set goals to increase my success, therefore, increasing my self-worth. I had to own my own home by age 23, married by 27, preferably to a millionaire ball player, and live happily ever after 😅

 

Fast forward 7 years, and I found myself being a single mom of two sweet little babies, two failed relationships, no college degree, no house, or anything. Just me and my babies. I grew so frustrated with myself, wondered why I kept going in circles, why I worked so hard to achieve my goals, only to be right back in the circle of failure! Failure in school, failure in my relationships, failure at my success.

 

I decided that I no longer wanted to be in the circle, and I started to look within myself to see if there was anything in me that was holding me back. I searched inside myself and I found that deep down, I didn’t want good things for myself because I felt like I didn’t deserve it, I felt like I wasn’t worthy of it! No matter how hard I worked, I unknowingly was destroying myself by putting myself in situations and making choices that would ultimately lead me back to the circle.

 

I promised to start seeing myself differently. To start loving myself and respecting myself. This love and respect for myself helped me break my circle. I graduated school, married the love of my life, and we are growing our millions together!

 

I hope my story helps you break your circle by loving yourself and respecting yourself. Because if you don’t love you, how can you ask a stranger to love you? If you don’t respect you, how can a stranger respect you?

 

Your self-worth is determined by you and only you! Hold your head up high and know your worth, and others will see it to.